We’ve all experienced anger, from the frustration of a frozen phone during a crucial mobile money transaction, to the deep hurt and rage that follows a betrayal. It’s a natural human response, essential in protecting us from threats and motivating change. But when anger spirals out of control, it can wreak havoc on our mental health, relationships, and physical wellbeing.
What Is Anger? According to Dr. Charles Spielberger, a leading psychologist in anger research, anger is “an emotional state that varies in intensity from mild irritation to intense fury and rage.” It’s triggered by a range of factors: external ones like criticism, unfair treatment, or delays, and internal ones such as fatigue, hunger, low self-esteem, negative thoughts, or unresolved trauma. Sometimes, even a memory of a past hurt can ignite anger unexpectedly.
Why Do Some People Seem Angrier Than Others? Not everyone experiences or expresses anger the same way. Some people react quickly and intensely; others may seem calm outwardly but harbor constant irritability or withdraw socially. Psychologists suggest this difference often stems from a person’s tolerance for frustration, the ability to cope with setbacks and inconvenience.
For some, life’s annoyances feel unbearable, and even small perceived injustices , like being corrected over a minor mistake can trigger disproportionate anger. These reactions are shaped by a mix of genetics, brain chemistry, upbringing, and cultural norms. People raised in chaotic or emotionally unsupportive homes may never learn healthy ways to manage anger. Additionally, some cultures discourage expressing anger, pushing it underground where it can manifest in unhealthy ways.
The Dual Nature of Anger Anger is a survival mechanism, it prepares us to defend ourselves in threatening situations and can be a powerful catalyst for positive change when channeled appropriately. It helps set boundaries and fuels assertive communication. But anger also takes a toll.
When Anger Becomes Harmful Chronic, uncontrolled anger is a serious mental health concern. It’s linked to anxiety, depression, substance abuse, and burnout. It raises risks of heart disease, weakens the immune system, and can cause sleep disturbances. Most importantly, unchecked anger damages relationships, leading to broken trust, conflict, and social isolation.
Managing Anger for Better Mental Health Understanding anger is the first step toward managing it. Developing healthy coping strategies such as mindfulness, physical activity, seeking social support, or professional counseling, can help regulate this powerful emotion. Learning to recognize anger’s triggers and responding calmly rather than reacting impulsively improves mental wellbeing and preserves relationships. It’s a journey of self-awareness and resilience, one that empowers individuals to transform anger from a destructive force into a tool for growth and positive change.
By Grace Namale – Counselling Psychologist- MUBS Staff Counsellor